Hi I have just found your blog as I am in search for katie Lersch, I really want to send her my story, can you help me? do you know where I can write to her, as I cannot write anything in her site. Anyway, I must say I thoroughly enjoyed your article “Dear Cheating Woman”.I commend you for a great job! I will be going through your articles in hopes that I can find answers and peace here. I hope to receive a reply from you soon. Thank you so much.
I must be off kilter because I think about my husband’s ex-coworker/lover constantly! Sometimes I wish he didn’t come back and beg me to take him back. At the time, though, our two boys were five and eight and it broke my heart to think of them with a stepdad! So late at night I wonder what the “other woman” is doing. And if she ever dwells upon the pain she has caused!
Your articles are helping me so much at this time of just finding out my husband has been unfaithful. But I have not seen any in-depth articles on one of the most important issues–resuming love making.
Thank you for your time, Katie!
Hi Donna,
First, I think you intended this to post on to Katie’s website but it posted onto my blog where I have shared a link or repost of one of her articles. Try visiting this site to find more of her articles and possibly somethign that will help with your guestion.
katie-lersch-articles.com
Next, I just want to say I am sorry you are having to deal with this issue of infidelity at this time. I know the subject of renewing love making is a difficult one. I have been all over the board with it myself so I’m not one to give you the answers but I can tell you that you have to do what feels right to you. The most important thing is to heal and to take good care of yourself
physically and emotionally. Consider asking him to be tested for STD’s. Read the abundance of material on line to help people like us deal with affairs and you will also find a very carring community of people in the same boat here on wordpress. Good luck to you! I know the path is difficult but there is much to learn about ourselves in the process. You are stronger than you may think!
Oddly, I forget about the other women almost immediately after a guy cheats on me. I’m always more wrapped up in what he must think of me before, during and after cheating on me. Clearly he didn’t appreciate or LIKE me very much, or he wouldn’t have. And after it’s over (and I’ve left, because I always do, immediately) I sometimes wonder, do they think of me? Is it missing me, realizing they disliked me all along, or contempt for me being the weakling that allowed myself to be cheated upon? I spend so much time thinking I must be worthless and unlovable (or they wouldn’t have disrespected me so) that who/what SHE was is meaningless to me. Then again, I avoid finding out who SHE is and what she looks like, because I don’t want to find out she’s taller, prettier, fitter, tanner or better educated (heaven forbid she be smarter than I am… as if). But what does/did he think of ME? ugh.. I’ve obsessed over that. And then I forget all about him. Even the names of people that used to cause me agony closer to the event are essentially meaningless to me now. A tiny bit of me thinks my soul has been irreparably damaged for me to no longer CARE so deeply and emotionally, but part of me just realizes I’ve grown up and simply don’t care about those fuckers any more. They weren’t good enough for me anyway. 🙂 Her name might be Robin, but unless you find out she’s Robin Jr and directly related to Robin I, there’s nothing TRULY there in her to be upset over.
I love how you communicate in a way I can relate to. Yep, I spend as much time obsessing over how little I must have meant or how worthless I must be to have let this happen. Everything I read tells me that is natural but wrong, because in truth, how they felt about us had very little to do with anything other than the lies or justifications they create in their head to avoid guilt. In the end we could be the hottest fricken women on the planet and it wouldnt have mattered. No woman or man for that matter is immune to being cheated on. As Peggy Vaughn says in the manogomy myth, it’s a society problem. The glorification and romancing of affairs. Humans have entitlement issues. Some of us control them, others dont. Easy to read, logical to understand, emotionally it doesn’t change a damn thing : )
screw infidelity 
Grrr, I have a blog on my website and it sucks.
I actually
removed it, but may need to bring it back. I was given by you motivation!
Keep on writing!
Hi I have just found your blog as I am in search for katie Lersch, I really want to send her my story, can you help me? do you know where I can write to her, as I cannot write anything in her site. Anyway, I must say I thoroughly enjoyed your article “Dear Cheating Woman”.I commend you for a great job! I will be going through your articles in hopes that I can find answers and peace here. I hope to receive a reply from you soon. Thank you so much.
I must be off kilter because I think about my husband’s ex-coworker/lover constantly! Sometimes I wish he didn’t come back and beg me to take him back. At the time, though, our two boys were five and eight and it broke my heart to think of them with a stepdad! So late at night I wonder what the “other woman” is doing. And if she ever dwells upon the pain she has caused!
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That inhgsit’s just what I’ve been looking for. Thanks!
Your articles are helping me so much at this time of just finding out my husband has been unfaithful. But I have not seen any in-depth articles on one of the most important issues–resuming love making.
Thank you for your time, Katie!
Hi Donna,
First, I think you intended this to post on to Katie’s website but it posted onto my blog where I have shared a link or repost of one of her articles. Try visiting this site to find more of her articles and possibly somethign that will help with your guestion.
katie-lersch-articles.com
Next, I just want to say I am sorry you are having to deal with this issue of infidelity at this time. I know the subject of renewing love making is a difficult one. I have been all over the board with it myself so I’m not one to give you the answers but I can tell you that you have to do what feels right to you. The most important thing is to heal and to take good care of yourself
physically and emotionally. Consider asking him to be tested for STD’s. Read the abundance of material on line to help people like us deal with affairs and you will also find a very carring community of people in the same boat here on wordpress. Good luck to you! I know the path is difficult but there is much to learn about ourselves in the process. You are stronger than you may think!
Oddly, I forget about the other women almost immediately after a guy cheats on me. I’m always more wrapped up in what he must think of me before, during and after cheating on me. Clearly he didn’t appreciate or LIKE me very much, or he wouldn’t have. And after it’s over (and I’ve left, because I always do, immediately) I sometimes wonder, do they think of me? Is it missing me, realizing they disliked me all along, or contempt for me being the weakling that allowed myself to be cheated upon? I spend so much time thinking I must be worthless and unlovable (or they wouldn’t have disrespected me so) that who/what SHE was is meaningless to me. Then again, I avoid finding out who SHE is and what she looks like, because I don’t want to find out she’s taller, prettier, fitter, tanner or better educated (heaven forbid she be smarter than I am… as if). But what does/did he think of ME? ugh.. I’ve obsessed over that. And then I forget all about him. Even the names of people that used to cause me agony closer to the event are essentially meaningless to me now. A tiny bit of me thinks my soul has been irreparably damaged for me to no longer CARE so deeply and emotionally, but part of me just realizes I’ve grown up and simply don’t care about those fuckers any more. They weren’t good enough for me anyway. 🙂 Her name might be Robin, but unless you find out she’s Robin Jr and directly related to Robin I, there’s nothing TRULY there in her to be upset over.
I love how you communicate in a way I can relate to. Yep, I spend as much time obsessing over how little I must have meant or how worthless I must be to have let this happen. Everything I read tells me that is natural but wrong, because in truth, how they felt about us had very little to do with anything other than the lies or justifications they create in their head to avoid guilt. In the end we could be the hottest fricken women on the planet and it wouldnt have mattered. No woman or man for that matter is immune to being cheated on. As Peggy Vaughn says in the manogomy myth, it’s a society problem. The glorification and romancing of affairs. Humans have entitlement issues. Some of us control them, others dont. Easy to read, logical to understand, emotionally it doesn’t change a damn thing : )
hahaha.. I feel ya, sister.