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I ran across this blog through Karmic Diva and found it interesting. Everyone has narcissistic tendencies to some degree. I won’t say all these traits apply to my relationship, but I think those recovering from affairs will find that many of them apply to the ways their betrayer acted or viewed things as they made their choice to cheat and in the ways they treated us before and during their cheating and to some degree after discovery.

The Wise One once said...

The Wise One once said: “Cultivate the Wisdom of obscurity…release the need to be more ‘anything’ in the eyes of others.” ~Lao Tzu~

Coping with having loved a Narcissist is not an easy task for many who are unlike the offender…the hurt, the confusion, the frustration, the embarrassment, all of it…it gets easier when, and only when, one is open to understanding something they don’t.  If you are reading this, you are ready.  You are a lovable human being, the Narcissist you fell in love with, is spiritually beneath you.  A fact is being stated not for judgement sake, but for you to shift to a compassionate sense of self-forgiveness and a platform to rebuild your confidence.  The quote from the Wise One, that you just read above…it is like kryptonite to the Narcissist.  Knowing this should begin to awaken you.  Your hurt and anger are symptoms of this transformation…

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