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This is a perspective on serial cheating, players, the grass is greener syndrome.   It’s interesting that he covers how this activity is basically the result of emotional and intimacy immaturity, regardless of age.   But what strikes me the most clearly is the comment that it’s a fantasy of a perfect life, a perfect magic person, without needing to make any effort to change, or take action themselves.

That is very similar to one of the points I have struggled with.   When I reference strength on my partners part this is a portion of what I am trying to explain.    That serial cheating, and similar behaviors are fueled by the need to fill some hole, boost some portion of ego, reach for some elusive form of happiness that is only fleeting.   Real intimacy and real happiness are not found on this twisted and ultimately selfish road.  The journey seems like the ride of a lifetime for a while.   Until waking up one day to find out there is nothing real and substantial in their life.  That they are devoid of the skills and depth to sustain intimacy and emotional happiness and ultimately many other forms of success.   It’s a pathological road trip taken by a narcissistic driver and it devalues all of the people who come and go in their lives and annihilates opportunities for success not just in relationships but in every aspect of life.

It is the search for an illusion born from weakness.  Void of the strength to stand tall, embrace integrity, value others, and to be accountable for our actions, thoughts and ultimately for what we create in every aspect of our lives.

It’s worth pointing out that while this is a frequent male mindset that woman are every bit as capable of this search for the unattainable.  For the magic cock that will make their world perfect, make them feel desirable and let them live their idealized dreams without ever needing to stand on their own feet and accomplish their own potential.

It’s a dangerous trap that we are all capable of at times in our lives,  it’s the path of least resistance, the illusions we buy into and are spoon fed by everything from fast food commercials using sex to sell their product to the magazine articles that tell us how to score the magic pussy/cock that will rock our world and show us heaven.   I think if we are honest we would all admit to these feelings or to chasing this fantasy or at least to having the fantasy even if we don’t act on it. Some act on it for a short period some never learn another way to act.

The real question in my mind and real purpose of my post is this question…..what does it take to wake up the world, to change the lies we are fed and devour in fits of hungry weakness,  into the wisdom we really need to develop?

 

In Search of The Magic Pussy — The Good Men Project.

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