This is a rebuttal to my post regarding cheating women. I was first tempted to ignore it but he raises very legitimate points, though I think he missed the underlying message. I did comment on his blog. I don’t expect him to change his mind but I did feel that his readers might have a better understanding of my post if I commented on his.
I am no fan of the cheater, despite what some of my readers think. I’ve been very diligent not only in my opposition to affairs in general, but any attempts by active cheaters to justify themselves and their behavior. If you are cheating, you have no justification, even if you have your ‘reasons’. You are doing something that is a massive betrayal and deceit. Frankly, some of you are pretty much self-indulgent, delusional, narcissistic twits. I see blogs all of the time of current and former cheaters who absolutely don’t seem to have any remorse for having affairs. I know not all of you are like this, even if Betrayed Spouses wish to paint you that way. But some of you are. Let’s face the facts: Cheating is bad. There is no real way to justify it or sugar-coat it.
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screw infidelity 
I was the other woman for five years and everything the writer said is true….I was very impressed with her insight…She was dead on the money..
I would be interested in reading this but every time I click it states source is no longer available. Help!
Hi Mistress4u. I’m sorry, it looks like he has taken the post off of his blog for the time being along with the many comments. I shared it because the writer and I don’t always see eye to eye but he made some valid points that I felt deserved to be shared. The comments that were left on his post were largely negative against my post “dear cheating woman” and most felt that I was vindictive, sexist, shrill and immature and that my spouse must be cursed to be with me. I wanted to reply to give a broader understanding of the purpose of my post which in many ways is simply a means to give voice to the thoughts many women have and the anger they feel as well as shed some light on some truths that can’t be denied. I wrote in a facetious voice, as I often do, in order to underscore the larger point that affairs are built on illusions. As well as to share with others that the anger they struggle with through this painful event is normal. By no means is it a letter I have written to an actual woman. It exists only here in this virtual world of WordPress. My method of writing it was very offensive to the blogger I shared from and for some of his readers and for that I am both sorry yet unapologetic for my method of evoking enough emotion that the topic continues to be explored and debated. The blogger I reposted tore me up and spit me out and criticized me harshly. He made a lot of assumptions about who I am, what I am about or how I treat my mate. All without knowing me or what I have experienced or done in my own life. I felt he was unfair and harsh but I also felt that he raised points that were completely fair to make. That all affairs are not the same, all men are not the same, all affair partners are not the same, that all affairs are not about sex, and many more. Out of respect it was only right to try to highlight his objections and his arguments here on my blog even if it meant sharing some pretty large doses of criticism against me. Some who read my blog take me to be mean and vindictive, I hope that’s not the case but it is good for me to try to step back at times and evaluate my intentions conscious or unconscious. I’m sorry that my post turned out to be a dead end.
Thank you for your reply. I am somewhat confused (easily done some may say) by the comments people would make on your post “dear cheating women”. I think you spoke the truth, sometimes the truth hurts to some but for me I think you have “hit the nail in the head” with the letter and the information you have included. Yes, comments are right, each of us have a different experience and story; for me I am a cheater and the men I meet are “cowards” – a bit like me I guess. I think if such topics provoke debates then it is good – allowing us to experience the roles of many others and enabling us to find our path on the journey – maybe changing our behaviour (I’m speaking of me on this one), I have read through your blog and have yet to come across anything that is mean and vindictive….this is your writing, your experience and I guess we can’t keep everyone happy or should we have to do so.
Keep writing!
Thanks Mistress, I appreciate the vote of confidence. And I respect your honesty here on my blog and yours. Life is a messy thing, however hard we try to smooth it out and make it wrinkle free.